Raising Your Vibration

Have you ever noticed that when you’re around someone you can feel their energy? Some people call it energy, some call it aura, others call it vibes. Whatever name you want to give it, we all give off a sort of energy into the space around us. I’m going to refer to it as vibes, because that’s what I like to think of it as.

When your energy is low, you give off low vibes that ripple out into the universe. Those vibes create a frequency that the universe matches and sends back. This is the basic concept of the Law of Attraction. What you send out into the universe is what you get back in return.

This is a good thing, because if you want to get better things, all you have to do is send out higher vibes. The higher you can raise your vibration, the higher vibration the universe sends back in return. When you commit to connecting with Source Energy, you can stop playing the “victim” card and start getting what you want in life.

So take a look around and then take a look within. You will find that whatever you’re feeling is reflected around you. It’s not easy to commit to raising your vibe, after all old habits die hard, but it is a simple process. Wherever your energy is right now, aim for one level higher. It can be as simple as replacing a hurtful thought with a positive one, closing your eyes and imagining something that makes you happy, smiling at someone, or hugging a loved one. Small, simple steps toward happiness is all it takes to get there. Good vibes!

Building on Strengths

It seems like it’s human nature to look for what is wrong and try to fix it. I’m certainly guilty of doing this, but that’s not my fault. (And it’s not your fault either if you find yourself doing this too!) Think about it, businesses and organizations are constantly looking to the problem in order to try to find a solution as to how they can be better. They get a complaint or bad review and try to improve by offering a discount or other incentives to the complaining customers. They have a high turnover rate and look at the employees’ reasons for leaving in order to find an answer for improving retention. Actually, most businesses are created because they are hoping to provide a solution to a problem. I’m not complaining or saying that’s wrong in any way! I enjoy many of the products and services that were built on this concept.

What I am saying is that we shouldn’t treat ourselves as problems to be solved. Too often we are quick to judge ourselves and nitpick the things we wish were different or better. STOP IT! You can do so much more if you focus on what you’re doing right. Take a look at the things you excel at and build on those! It’s much more enjoyable (and fun!) to focus on your strengths and improve upon them than it is to look at what is wrong and try to fix it. I challenge you to choose one of your strengths and figure out a way to build on it.

I’d love to hear about your experience with this, so drop a comment or send me a message telling me all about it!

If you’d like more information about finding your strengths and building on them, I highly recommend reading “Now, Discover Your Strengths” by Marcus Buckingham & Donald O. Clifton, Ph.D.

Money Woes

One of the first people to influence my personal transformation was Louise Hay. When I started my journey of self improvement, I had no idea where to start or who to turn to. Through a business acquaintance, I was “introduced” to Louise Hay. If you’re familiar with her work, you know she was a very positive person, always focused on the upside of things. I found that the way I felt, things I thought and believed, coincided with a lot of what she taught. It just made sense to me.

As with many things I have studied on my journey, there were “ah ha” moments and moments where I questioned what I was reading or hearing. One of the latter moments happened when Louise said I should thank my bills and be grateful for them. I was like, “Um yeah, that’s not happening.” I mean I really did want to make meaningful differences in my life, but be thankful for my bills? Who was she kidding? My bills were part of the problem, not the solution. On top of that, Abraham Hicks says you get what you focus on. Why do I want to focus on my bills? I don’t want more of them!

So you know what I did? I followed the rest of her advice, but did not become grateful for my bills. I didn’t see how that could help me at all. Do you know what happened? I grew, my attitude improved, and things began to change. My relationship with my husband improved, and my outlook on life improved. Heck, I even manifested a better job. Things were slowly falling into place, but I still felt stuck in one area of my life – my finances. The bills were still there and I still despised them. I had no love for the things that were sucking the money out of my bank account quicker than I could put it in. As far as my finances were concerned, nothing had changed.

Then, I tapped on it. I’m not going to lie, it wasn’t the instant fix I was looking for. However, I did begin to feel better. I realized that Louise wasn’t full of crap and started being thankful for my bills. Actually, I started being thankful for everything that surrounds money in my life. Every time I fill up at the gas station or buy a pack of gum, I mindfully thank them and they money I spend on them. Tapping helped me get through the blocks that were keeping me from being grateful about my bills and everything I spend money on. I used to dread having one more thing to pay for, but now I thank the universe for it and for having the resources to pay for it. It really has helped with the overwhelm I felt surrounding our finances. While the bills are still there, I feel better about them and our situation.

Running on Empty

In my adult life, I have run out of gas twice. Like actually run out of fuel in my vehicle, twice. If you’ve ever experienced this, you know how it makes you feel. The disappointment, anger, frustration, embarrassment, and failure that you feel knowing you let this happen. Luckily for me, the first time I was actually pulling into the gas station and was able to get to the pump. The second time my amazing husband was with me and walked to the gas station. Although I was able to quickly solve the problem, I still felt the residual feeling of failure. I had let myself, and in the second instance my husband, down.

Perhaps you haven’t experienced running out of fuel in your vehicle, but the majority of women (especially moms) do know what it’s like to run out of fuel. I’m talking about your own fuel, the fire that keeps you going. You know what it’s like to run on empty, because let’s face it, that’s what you do most of the time. You’re cooking, cleaning, washing, drying, folding, working, running kids here and there, and so on. When do you have time to fill up?

This is where so many women go wrong! You’ve heard of burnout in the workplace. Well, moms get burnout too! And we have every right to feel burnt out. Believe me, I’ve been there. You’re exhausted but you keep pushing on because your family needs you. The more you push, the worse you feel, and then you start to feel like you’re failing at everything. Everything you touch seems to just fall apart. Ready for some good news? You can avoid burnout!

Here’s how. Take care of yourself. You can’t pour from an empty cup, so fill your cup first. Do something small for yourself every day to recharge your battery. Wake up a little earlier than everyone else and really enjoy that first cup of coffee. Take yourself out to lunch. Buy yourself flowers. Go get that pedicure or massage you’ve been craving. Take 10 minutes to meditate. Go try yoga or kickboxing. The possibilities are endless! It doesn’t really matter what you do as long as you do something! You matter. Start acting like it!

The Struggle is Real, but it doesn’t have to be.

Surely you’ve heard the phrase “The struggle is real.” It seems to be pretty popular these days. Whether we’re discussing starting a new diet, managing finances, chasing kids around, or basically anything that has to do with adulting, people love to throw the phrase around! Heck, I’m guilty of using it myself. In the past year or so I’ve been toying with improving myself, but only recently have I decided to get real about it.

Have you ever felt like no matter what you did it just wasn’t good enough? This was my life until I decided it wasn’t going to be that way any more. You see, all this time I had been looking around for the answer to my problems, but what I didn’t realize is that I had the answer all along. It wasn’t until I realized that the divine spirit that created this universe actually wanted me to win. The universe wasn’t working against me, it was working with me.

Now, you might be thinking that sounds like a whole lot of mumbo jumbo or just plain bullshit, and that’s okay. I’m not here to convince you of anything. I just want to share my experience with you so you know the possibility of what can be. When you choose to change the way you talk to yourself, you begin to change the way you think and believe. This energy shift from inside you ripples out into the universe and creates waves. These waves tell your story and the universe aligns itself with that story. Every thought you think sends a message to the universe telling it what you want. If you think the struggle is real, it will be because the universe will align with that belief and make the struggle real for you. On the other hand, believe it will all work out and things will begin to fall into place for you.

“Sounds like magic.” Well, actually, magic is an illusion, so no it’s not magic. It’s simple, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy. You have to work on every thought you think in order to change your mindset and change your life. That’s my goal as a life coach, I want to help you change your mindset. If you’re interested in working with me personally, send me a quick message on the “contact me” section of this site and we’ll see if it’s a good fit.

May the universe be with you. 😉

Girl, Clean Your House!

Ever feel like your house will NEVER be clean? You’re not alone! Believe me, I know what you’re going through. Every time I turn around, there’s another thing that needs picked up, washed, cleaned, folded, scrubbed, put away, swept, mopped, wiped or whatever! More days than not I’ve looked around and thought, “I live with slobs.”

They say clutter is a big contributor to anxiety and unease. I can see that. The mess around me has contributed to stress in my life. I’ve searched Pinterest and Google for solutions to my ever-dirty house. I’ve made chore charts, bought storage containers, tried this hack and that tip, but nothing seems to really work. If I don’t do it then it doesn’t get done. No amount of gentle reminders, dropping hints, or screaming is going to change that.

Here’s the thing. I’ve come to realize that I’m the one that is bothered most by the mess. There will always be something to clean. I’ve had to come to terms with that and accept that my house is lived in. I’m slowly getting passed my touch of OCD and allowing myself to let go. My house doesn’t have to be in perfect condition. The mess is our mess and it’s a sign of kids playing and growing. Our mess is a sign that we’d rather spend time with each other making memories than cleaning every nook and cranny. You see, I’ve come to realize that my kids are growing up and in less than a decade they’ll both be out of the house and have their own places to make messes in. So I’m embracing this mess and learning to love it.

Overcoming Anxiety

For many years, as long as I can remember actually, I’ve lived with anxiety. Everyone has anxiety from time to time. It’s a normal, natural reaction to things that seem like a threat to your wellbeing. Our minds are wired to look for threats. When a threat is perceived, the “flight or fight” reaction sets in. This is how we protect ourselves.

This concept of “protection” is something I’ve only recently realized. In looking for a “cure” to my anxiety, I came across this idea of my mind trying to protect me in one of the books I read. This same concept was presented in several of the resources that I found and I don’t recall which resource it showed up in first. After having been exposed to it a few times, I had one of those “ah-ha” moments.

All this time I had been fighting with my mind, trying to hide my anxiety or get rid of it. Then it dawned on me that what I really needed to be doing was thanking my mind for keeping me safe. All the fighting and arguing with myself to try and get rid of the anxiety was actually making it worse. Over the past year or so I’ve used several techniques to help me accept my anxiety as a normal reaction and actually appreciate it for its purpose of protecting me.

When we learn to accept ourselves fully, including the parts that we don’t particularly like, we can find peace.