Why Goals are Important

Do you have goals? Is your life all planned out in steps to reach your goals? Are you consistently working through those steps, realigning with what you really want, and setting new steps? If not, you need to read this!

I’ve never been a goal setter. I like to go with the flow and see where life takes me. I’ve tried setting goals, but inevitably something throws me off track and I don’t achieve the goals I set. Does that sound like you?

Here’s what I’ve learned: Goals are an essential part of living a fulfilling and prosperous life. If you have no goals, you have nothing to push you to do better and be better. You’re just being tossed around, bouncing around from this to that with no real direction. What are you doing? You have no clue! This can be the biggest contributor to feeling like you’re a failure. If there’s one thing you change in your life, make it goal setting. Trust me, you won’t be disappointed.

If you’re new to goal setting or need some help fine tuning your goals, follow these tips. In nursing school I learned the S.M.A.R.T. goal method. There are other methods, but they all have the same basic principles. Goals should be specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, and time-based. You need to know exactly what you’re trying to achieve, be specific. Then you need a way to know if your steps are helping you reach your goal, make it measurable. Your goal has to be something that pushes you and is also attainable. It should be something you can realistically work towards and commit to. Finally you have to set a timeframe in which you will achieve the goal.

Write your goal down in this format (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, and Timed). Try it out. Journal about your experience and achievements. If something isn’t working quite the way you want it to, review your goal and make changes as needed. Stick with it and you’ll be making strides towards your goals in no time!

Rise up and bloom.

The Great Habit Switch

What is a habit? Habits are the things we do repeatedly without having to think about doing them. Some habits are good, others not so much.

A lot of the time we think of habits as being those bad things that we want to stop doing, like smoking for instance. Habits can actually take on a lot of faces. You might be in the habit of eating healthy foods or getting up early to exercise. You could have a habit of going to bed at a decent time to get a good nights sleep. Maybe you have a habit of getting a pedicure every 6 weeks because you know self care is important. These are all physical examples of positive habits, but have you ever thought about the mental habits we have?

I’ve always been good at math, not excellent, but good. When I was younger I developed a habit of finding relationships with sequential numbers. Like if I saw 549, I’d automatically think “5+4=9.” It was just something that came naturally and was fun for me to do. Can you think of anything mental that you do automatically? Here’s another example: self talk. We all talk to ourselves. Our minds are constantly saying things to us. I’m sure I’ve said it before, but you must pay attention to your self talk. Are you nice or mean? What kinds of things do you say to yourself?

The point I want to make here is that no matter what your habits are, you can change them. Going back to the example of smoking, you probably know someone who has been able to change that habit by either cutting back or quitting. If not smoking, then maybe you know someone who changed their diet or exercise to lose weight. You may even know someone that changed their way of thinking and has turned their life around. Whatever habit you have that you want to change, you can change it. You just have to decide you’re going to change it.

Try it out by choosing something small that you’re fairly certain you can change. Maybe you have a bad habit of being late, so you decide to wake up 10 minutes earlier. This is what I like to call “The Great Habit Switch.” You’re taking the unwanted habit of being late and switching it out with the new habit of waking up earlier. Once you’ve mastered a few of these easy switches, step it up to something a little more difficult. Before long you’ll be switching all your unwanted habits for better more desirable ones.

The Power of Forgiveness

If you want to change your situation, you’ve got to stop living in the past! You’ll never ever be able to focus on improving your future until you forgive your past. As long as there’s something from your past that you are holding on to, this lame crappy life you love to hate will continue to be lame and crappy. So get over yourself already, and start forgiving!!

Follow these 3 simple steps to start forgiving yourself and others today.

1. Get real. In order to start forgiving, you have to become aware of what you’re holding on to. What negative thoughts do you have about yourself and others? Take out a piece of paper and write everything down that comes to mind. Maybe you never forgave your parents for not buying you a pony after you asked and begged for one. Perhaps you never really got over your first love leaving you for another. Dig deep and get real about your feelings.

2. Forgive the list. Now that you have a starting list, go down it one by one and actively forgive each one. Some of it may involve forgiving others, and some may be about forgiving yourself. As you read each item on your list, picture the person, say their name and what you are forgiving them for. If it’s you, look yourself in the eye using a mirror. It’s important to say the forgiveness out loud. If you feel comfortable you can actually speak to the person and forgive them. Another approach is to write letters of forgiveness, then read them out loud and throw them away. Throwing them away symbolizes letting go.

3. Rinse and repeat. Keep up your practice of forgiving by being proactive. When do you have negative feelings during the day? Who are they about? Notice when you are judging yourself or others. Often judgement is a residual product of something from your past that you need to forgive. Notice the judgement or negative feelings and actively choose to forgive and let it go. Pick a better, more positive thought. Keep your vibration high. Use a mantra like “I choose to see love instead of this.”

The act of forgiveness is not a one and done type of thing. It’s is constant and ongoing, just like the act of keeping your vibration at a higher level. Make it a point to practice forgiveness daily and soon it will become a habit you don’t even have to think about. As you forgive you will feel lighter and happier because you won’t have all of that junk bogging you down. Rise up and bloom.

Mindful Morning Practice

Are you feeling overwhelmed, anxious, worried, frustrated, stuck or hopeless? As a mom, it’s easy to let the little struggles in life take over and bring you down. If you’re trying to start a spiritual practice, those little struggles can make you feel like a complete failure. There is always something to think about, mull over, replay, worry about, blow out of proportion, etc. Sometimes you wish you could just turn off your brain and be at peace.

I know just how that feels! I used to struggle with endless worrying and anxiety. My brain would fixate on meaningless things that had happened or could happen. I couldn’t get a moment of peace. I was forgetful, my relationships suffered, and I was constantly tired. When your brain is always running on overdrive, it uses up a lot of energy. All that brain power wasted on worrying could be channeled into much better use!

Don’t worry (no pun intended)! There is hope! I was able to develop a simple spiritual practice that fits into my busy mom schedule and you can do it too! Before even getting out of bed, I start my morning with a silent prayer of thanks for the new day and all the amazing things it will bring. Then, I get up, make a pot of coffee and go to a quiet place to meditate. I choose a meditation for the day, usually 10-15 minutes long. I then follow that with some stretching and a quick 10-20 minutes of exercise. A healthy breakfast adds the nutrients to fuel me all day and boosts my vibe even higher! If you make it a routine to practice this every morning, I guarantee you will be more mindful throughout the day! It may be difficult at first because your brain is used to ruling your life, and it won’t give up that position easily. But stick with it and you will be less anxious! Less anxiety means more energy for the things you want to do. Plus your memory will improve because your brain will have more room to focus on what’s important.

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Honor and Sacrifice

Today I wanted to recognize the brave men and women who have made the ultimate sacrifice for our country. Tomorrow will be a day off from work for many of us. It will likely be filled with barbecues, camping, and fishing trips. These are freedoms we wouldn’t have if not for the sacrifices made.

As a nurse and spiritual coach, I see a side of that sacrifice that some will never know. Many brave men and women have fought and died during war while battling the enemy. Sadly, more have died fighting a very different war and battling an invisible enemy. That enemy lies within and is the most stealth ninja anyone has ever encountered.

Mental health awareness is on the rise in our country. The stigma still exists, but it is slowly becoming a thing of the past. I want to encourage you to think about your own mental health and that of those you love. Reach out to your loved ones and check on them.

Our military men and women are heroes. Remember to honor them tomorrow and silently thank the fallen for their sacrifice. Take a moment to inventory all that you’re thankful for. Acknowledge these gifts. You’ll not only raise your own vibration but also raise the vibration of this country. Together we can rise up and bloom.

Get Inspired

Every single person on this earth is here right now for a purpose. I’ve asked myself, God, and the universe what my purpose is. I pray and meditate for divine guidance daily. It’s easy to get caught up in the day to day activities and drama. You lose sight of where you’re going. But I KNOW I’m not here to just go through the motions. I’m here to inspire, enlighten, guide, and empower others.

There are still days when I have a tough time finding inspiration and listening to guidance. I struggle with wondering if I’m making the right choice, or if that path is really the one I’m supposed to take. It’s hard to let go and trust. Especially when sometimes it feels like all the forces of the universe are working against you.

If you feel strongly about doing something, then do it! If you feel compelled to take a certain path, then take it! If there’s something that keeps showing up to you and you just can’t shake it, then embrace it! Trust that you are drawn to what you’re good at. Trust that divine guidance is showing you your purpose. It’s been there all along, you just have to be open to it.

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Get Back in Your Seat!

Fear is a wonderfully amazing thing that we’ve been equipped with to keep us safe. Our brains are wired to kick in whenever a threat is perceived. If your brain senses danger, a cascade of incredible reactions begins within your body. Your heart starts pumping faster, feeding your cells with the oxygen needed for the anticipated fight or flight you’re about to engage in. Your breath becomes faster and more shallow to quickly provide more oxygen. Your senses begin to heighten. Every function that isn’t necessary for survival in that moment slows so more energy can be used in the fight or flight.

This is great, if you’re in actual immediate danger. Like running from a bear in the woods for instance. But if you’re just going through every day life and something happens (perhaps an opportunity to speak in front of an audience) the fear response may kick in when you don’t need it to. Some people even live in a constant state of fear. Health professionals like to call this “anxiety.”

Anxiety happens when you live inside your head. If you stop and pay attention you will actually feel that you are occupying the top third of your body. That may sound strange, but hear me out. We are spiritual beings having a human experience. This means that your spiritual self can concentrate in any one part of your body, leaving the rest feeling empty. Living like this for extended periods of time causes all sorts of physical and emotional problems.

There is a simple solution, though. Tune into the way you feel. Pay attention to what your body is telling you. Whenever you start to feel that you’re occupying the top third of your body, stop and take a moment to ground yourself. Grounding means pulling your spirit back down to where it’s meant to be. Your spirit is designed to take a seat in your belly, just below your navel. In order to bring it back down, you need to breathe. Take a deep breath in and concentrate on pushing your diaphragm down towards your belly button as you breathe in. Your shoulders should not really move at all. Breathe in slowly and deeply. You can even picture your spirit moving back down and taking its seat below your navel. As you breathe out drop your shoulders.

Make it a point to practice putting your spirit back on its seat daily. Over time you will come to live in a more grounded state and your “anxiety” will cease to exist.